It is an effort that calls for both respect and deep admiration. In just nine months, the association Værdig – led by founder and director Maj Kær – has raised 1.4 million kroner for the furnishing of 12 family rooms at the new Super Hospital in Aalborg East. When the first part of the intensive care unit moves in as planned on February 1, the new, aesthetically designed family rooms will be ready for use.

– For me, it has been important to find meaning in the fact that Victor had to leave so early. I am the one who makes things happen – but the reason is Victor.

In 2024, Maj Kær experienced the worst imaginable for any parent. Her 14-year-old son, Victor, was hospitalized with aggressive meningitis and declared brain dead. The message that the doctors could do no more was delivered in a small room that served as a lounge, sleeping area, playroom, and dining area for all relatives at Aalborg University Hospital.

While the family tried to cope with the unbearable news that they would never get their beloved Victor back, another relative came in to warm food in the microwave. The situation made an indelible impression and became the basis for the desire to create an environment where there is room for both difficult conversations, silence, and being human – in the midst of the crisis.

Previously, the new super hospital had planned the establishment of 12 family rooms, which were originally to be furnished with existing furniture. Almost a year ago, Maj Kær made a post on LinkedIn, seeking help to create dignified surroundings for relatives.

– Nine months after the post, we had the necessary support. It is almost symbolic – Victor's lucky number was nine, and I carried him for nine months, says Maj Kær.

The project has been developed in close collaboration with Aalborg University Hospital and is based on research- and knowledge-based design focusing on aesthetics, functionality, and hygiene.

– It has been overwhelming to experience how so many people have come together to realize the project, she says.

The grief of losing a child never disappears, but Maj Kær manages to find glimmers of light in the darkness. Victor lives on in several ways – through the association Værdig and through the organ donation that has given others a new chance.

– Victor had said himself that if he died, he would donate his organs to help others. We knew that we would never bring our son home – but the decision meant that other parents could hopefully leave the hospital with their child, says Maj Kær.

FACTS

At the new Super Hospital in Aalborg, a total of 12 family rooms have been established:
Four lounges – including two family rooms with space for play and two rooms focused on calm and rest. In addition, there are four overnight rooms and four consultation rooms for meetings with doctors and nurses. One of the rooms has been named 'Victor's Room'.

During the organ donation process, the family felt a sense of isolation. The lack of support and conversations in the acute situation has made assistance for relatives – especially in connection with organ donation – one of Værdig's central issues.